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in control· Five Minute Friday

Control Isn’t Really What You’re After (Five Minute Friday)

Control makes us miserable quote by Shannon Popkin

For years, I thought it would make me safe. I strapped it on for size, pulling the ropes taut—trying to secure that which felt out of reach.

I fretted, plotted, and paced trying to tame what might come…the unexpected, the unknown, the unraveling ahead.

Through sweat, tears, and orders barked, I tried to grasp shiny security, but the further I reached, the more frustrated I became.

Control was a mirage.

It wasn’t really what I wanted. I desired peace within. Yet I thought I wanted to be in the know more.

I longed for insight into what would transpire. Yet really, I wanted to know that I wasn’t alone, no matter what happened.

Loneliness accompanies the one holding the reins—especially when you have a death grip on them.

What I really wanted was assurance that He was enough for me, and enough for whatever might come. What I was missing was the revelation of grace.

Jesus Himself is the One who is truly in control, so I don’t have to be.

Thank You God for not giving me what I really wanted, by providing me with what I actually needed. I find grace in the unraveling as You unwind my soul and assure me of Your love.

It’s been awhile since I joined the writing crew over at Kate Motaung’s Five Minute Friday. Join us, whether on a blog, social media, or in a notebook, as we write for 5 minutes flat on this week’s prompt: CONTROL.

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My friend Shannon Popkin is guest posting over at Kate’s place about her new book, Control Girl. Be sure to check it out!

Control Girl book by Shannon Popkin

 

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  1. Bonnie says

    January 26, 2017 at 11:21 pm

    Hi Katie. I’m right along with you in the same boat, wanting to know what’s up ahead and wanting to let Jesus stir this ship. I needed this beautiful reminder, thank you. (I’m one of your FMF neighbors!)

    • Katie says

      January 26, 2017 at 11:32 pm

      Glad to be neighbors at FMF, Bonnie. So thankful that God is in control and holding us close.

  2. Tara says

    January 27, 2017 at 12:26 am

    Amen! God is in control but it can so hard to trust in that. So nice to see you here friend. I’m over in the 11 spot this week.

    • Katie says

      January 27, 2017 at 10:16 am

      Hi Friend! May He helps us rest in His Sufficiency and affection. Have a great weekend!

  3. Paula says

    January 27, 2017 at 12:34 am

    What a beautifully written commentary. I struggle with letting God be in control.

    • Katie says

      January 27, 2017 at 10:15 am

      Me too Paula. May we both grow, knowing that He can be trusted and is a Good Father indeed. 🙂

  4. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser says

    January 27, 2017 at 1:53 am

    “Loneliness accompanies the one holding the reins…”

    Katie, that’s brilliant. Something I never realized, and I was lonely for so long!

    #1 at FMF this week.
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    http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/01/your-dying-spouse-264-theres-still-work.html

    • Katie says

      January 27, 2017 at 10:15 am

      Control can make us feel safe for a time, but soon we realize it’s more of a cage that a shied. Thankful that in Christ we are free as He surrounds us as a shield with His care.

  5. Sarah says

    January 27, 2017 at 7:58 am

    You are SO right – control only brings loneliness. I can sure relate to that.
    Loved this.
    Blessings friend!
    #32 – FMF
    Sarah

    • Katie says

      January 27, 2017 at 10:13 am

      Hi Sarah- So thankful that we are not alone, in Christ. Happy Friday to you!

  6. Shannon Popkinw says

    January 27, 2017 at 2:00 pm

    Hey, Katie! Nicely done. Yes, you and I have similar struggles, don’t we? Glad we also share the same Lord–the Prince of Peace.

    • Katie says

      January 28, 2017 at 11:34 am

      So fun to see you on FMF this week!

  7. Stephanie Thompson says

    January 27, 2017 at 8:20 pm

    “What I really wanted was assurance that He was enough for me, and enough for whatever might come.” I totally resonate with this and only recently realized that was feeding my need for control (wrote about it this week). Ultimately, He holds the reigns so I have no reason to fear. But it takes practice to embrace that reality. I’m #58 at FMF linkup.

    • Katie says

      January 28, 2017 at 11:34 am

      Hi Stephanie- Yes, so glad He holds the reins!

  8. Sarah Geringer says

    January 28, 2017 at 10:51 am

    Great post, Katie. This is my first time linking up at FMF, and it’s fun to read everyone else’s takes on the prompt!

    • Katie says

      January 28, 2017 at 11:33 am

      Welcome Sarah! You’ll love the FMF Community. 🙂

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