She’s only ten, and she’s stressed? Only a decade into living and this Tightly Wound Woman has already taught her daughter how to live stressed. How do I help her work through this when I am still trying to navigate my own uptightness, sensitivity and the big emotions that I was born with?
So I called out to a few of my social media mamas and asked them, “How do you help your kids deal with stress?”
Here is what Sue Cramer (of Praise & Coffee) tweeted back, “Be there. Face time. Dinner together. Connection. Listen for what’s really behind stress- where is the fear? “
Betsy DeCruz (of Faith Spilling Over) responded with this, “Predictable daily routines, family dinner, be available to listen and talk over problems. Help with organizing school tasks.”
So today, after years of promising it, Darling Daughter and I finally went ice-skating together. We didn’t have any earth shattering conversations but we skated together in circles and enjoyed the company of one another. We did not solve the stress issue but we relieved some of it but skating somewhat gracefully to Stay With Me.And the weight of the stress issues, the predictability of skating in circles and the security of being side by side reminds me of a tour we took on vacation— to a place called Saving Grace.
Saving Grace, Inc. “is a transitional living home for young women (ages 17-25) who have aged out of foster care or group homes, are facing homelessness, and/or have been orphaned by critical support systems.”
My daughter is dealing with the “normal” stress of sibling relationships and the challenges that come from being raised by a Tightly Wound Woman. The young women served by Saving Grace have experienced beyond-normal turmoil in their lives.
Becky and her team help relieve stress by providing a predictable schedule and the security that comes from a safe place to live, healthy boundaries and on-going support; walking by their side as they help the residents navigate the transition to adulthood.
My favorite part of the tour was hearing how Becky stepped out in faith with the idea of Saving Grace and God met here there as she committed to offer a haven for the hurting. He surprised her by providing the people, the place and the provision to offer hope to the wandering.
And isn’t that what Christmas is all about Charlie Brown?
A haven was provided for the hurting
A Savior was given for the sinful
Mercy met the wayward
Grace covered the weak
Restoration came down for the wrecked.
Jesus, and His redemptive work and unending love, is what Christmas is all about.
He opens the doors of His love and helps us navigate the choppy waters of our circumstances. If we believe in and receive Jesus, He sets us free from our past as He heals us with His unconditional love and faithfulness. He forgives our sin and points us on the path of His righteousness.
May we all take a tour of this place of saving grace as we remember the manger, filled with the Savior, who provided a way to lay down our sin and stress and carry His light to a dark and hurting world.
It is with joy that we end the year with Saving Grace as our focus for December’s Extension 26. Would you prayerfully consider giving a year end gift to this incredible ministry? Click here to see tangible ways that you can give (through prayer, volunteering, employment and providing practical needs).
Each month in 2014 we have highlighted a different ministry and encouraged others to join us in giving to them (or to another one of their choice). Our family just wanted to take a minute to say a heartfelt “thank you” for generously giving this year. We know that it is often inconvenient and difficult to give but we believe that God multiplies our prayers and our small offerings and allows them to have big impact.
Thank you #WoundUpWoman and #MakeADifferenceMen for doing more good around the globe!
Katie and family
View the Extension 26 list from 2014 and take a moment to learn more about these incredible organizations and lift them up in prayer as this year comes to a close.